BEFORE YOU SAY "I DO" TO HIM/HER!!!

“I love you” hmmmmmmmmmmmmm this three words have stirred a lot of reactions and actions at different situations.

 

Today, my post on relationship is on ‘disagreements’. Some men prefer a woman who is so submissive that she accepts every line of discussion and decision from the man as final, after all, he is Dinwenu, Olowo Orimi or Megida!

However, some men want their woman to add value by contributing to some (if not all) deliberations/decisions, this is because they believe that women are also intelligent enough to make a beneficial contribution.

As a women, before you say “I do to anybody”, you need to find out where the man falls into in the two categories mentioned above, and decide if you are that type of person to compliment what he/she needs. Please note that there is nothing wrong in any of the two except combination (combination of “oga na master” and a woman who wants to be heard is a wrong blend)

When a woman who believes she has something to contribute “claims to love” a man who believes that “women should be seen and not heard” hmmmmmm she has misfired!! The same thing is applicable when a man who wants his woman’s opinion gets someone who believes that as the man, everything you say is final. This is the reason you see some men complain that their wife/girlfriend/fiancee is so daft she could not contribute to a meaningful discussion, hence he is always reluctant to present her to friends or take her to functions.

Again, some men believe a women’s place is in the kitchen, and my girl who has the dream of being the next Dora Akunyili (of blessed memory) as a career woman, will now settle down with such a man? Another wrong target!!

To all my ladies out there, please always allow a certain part of your sense (sixth sense) to be part of the decision on who you settle for to avoid “had I known, I wish I could walk away from this union, my life is finished” etc.

Talk it over before any serious commitment, a lot of men and women shy away from discussing some of these things during courtship because according to them, “it does not matter”, unfortunately for such people those “it doesn’t matters” turns to matters arising after marriage. Then comes all manner of name calling and running to friends and relatives to intervene in a love affair you did not contract them before you started.

Communication is the answer and knowledge of self and your compatibility with the intended partner is the solution!!!

Please share your experiences on the above topic because knowledge is power………………

Before i forget, did i tell you that your love life has a direct impact on your job? well it does dear! because any unstable heart CANNOT be productive on the job.........

 

I wish you luck in in your love affairs!

Celestina